HOME Series - Emotionally charged or spiritually led? (Pt.1)
There are many smart women around these days. With more opportunities in education and career choice, women are becoming smarter and advancing in life. But smart does not mean wise. I've come across some very smart, intellectual, highly esteemed and positioned women who did not use their wisdom and therefore, threw away their influence to do good. Wisdom is a choice. Everyday, as a wife, a mother, an employee, a student, we are given the opportunity to influence and impact people around us. Without realising it, we squander it by not choosing wisely.
I've also come to realise that wisdom is linked to speech. The way we speak has the capacity to really make a difference in the lives of the people around us. The Bible says in Proverbs 14:1, a wise woman builds her house, and the foolish one tears it down with her own hands. The power to build and tear down is in the power of the woman's choice. Many times, I've made the mistake of lashing out powerful but negative sentences to my husband and children. Not that I didn't know any better, I was just too frustrated, upset and lazy to choose wisely so I gave in to what my emotions were telling me to say.
And that's what we, women do, isn't it? It's much more convenient and easy to let out everything our feelings are saying rather than to choose carefully and wisely what the Spirit is saying. As women, we tend to be emotionally charged rather than spiritually led. We allow our charged up emotions to speak through our mouths, rather than the Holy Spirit's voice within us to speak. And it causes long- lasting damage to our families and people around us.
I've learnt to tame the tongue, a very small but most powerful member of our bodies. I've learnt when to silence it and when to use it. I've learnt to be intentional about it and to use it for good, not evil. I've learnt to control it and when let it flow according to the occasion and the person I'm talking to.
How did I learn this? Not overnight, of course! First, I learnt to meditate on what God said about me and others.Then, I learnt to see others and love others according to how He would, not according to their actions, their circumstances or their choices, knowing that everyone makes mistakes. See, when you grow in grace, you grow in wisdom. When you grow in love, you grow in speech. It is all intertwined. Then, it is about learning the art to shut up when the occassion calls for it. You don't have to react to everything that happens and you don't need to comment on everything, either.
Think like this: if what you're going to say is not going to help build up and bless the other person, don't say it. As a mom, we need to correct our children when they're wrong. Correct, by all means. Correct in love, not anger. Be angry, be disappointed, but don't let it come out through nasty words or sentences. We have to be intentional about this. When we use wisdom in our speeches, we are building. And when we do not, we are tearing down with our own hands.
Doesn't matter what others say about your children, if they're smart, lazy, etc. You build them up by telling them what God says about them. Same goes to your husband. Keep building and speaking life, not according to what your eyes see, but according to what the Word says and watch them fall into alignment of who God says they are. Then, they will be positioned for great things ahead. Bless your family today. Build your home!
And that's what we, women do, isn't it? It's much more convenient and easy to let out everything our feelings are saying rather than to choose carefully and wisely what the Spirit is saying. As women, we tend to be emotionally charged rather than spiritually led. We allow our charged up emotions to speak through our mouths, rather than the Holy Spirit's voice within us to speak. And it causes long- lasting damage to our families and people around us.
I've learnt to tame the tongue, a very small but most powerful member of our bodies. I've learnt when to silence it and when to use it. I've learnt to be intentional about it and to use it for good, not evil. I've learnt to control it and when let it flow according to the occasion and the person I'm talking to.
How did I learn this? Not overnight, of course! First, I learnt to meditate on what God said about me and others.Then, I learnt to see others and love others according to how He would, not according to their actions, their circumstances or their choices, knowing that everyone makes mistakes. See, when you grow in grace, you grow in wisdom. When you grow in love, you grow in speech. It is all intertwined. Then, it is about learning the art to shut up when the occassion calls for it. You don't have to react to everything that happens and you don't need to comment on everything, either.
Think like this: if what you're going to say is not going to help build up and bless the other person, don't say it. As a mom, we need to correct our children when they're wrong. Correct, by all means. Correct in love, not anger. Be angry, be disappointed, but don't let it come out through nasty words or sentences. We have to be intentional about this. When we use wisdom in our speeches, we are building. And when we do not, we are tearing down with our own hands.
Written by;
Priscilla Francis
(Founder of The Shine Project)
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Great keep on spreading 😊
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